call one’s shots To verbalize what one intends to do or in what manner one intends to act; to inform others of one’s plans. This phrase probably derives from various billiards games in which a player must call out the shot he plans to make before attempting it. The similar expression call the shots shifts the emphasis from one’s personal domain to a larger frame of reference in which an individual attempts to direct or control events, to be in charge, or to be in the driver’s seat. Call the shots may derive from the director’s role in film making.
Yet plenty of women participate in public Internet communication. Many women blog, for example, and more than half of users of social network sites are female. It is no coincidence, I think, that both those technologies have a feature that Wikipedia and discussion forums have traditionally lacked: the ability to control the communication.
Bloggers can delete comments or disallow commenting altogether. The “walled garden” model on which Facebook is based allows women (and men) to choose who can read and contribute; flamers and harassers can be filtered out. There, as nowhere previously online, women share information, but they also socialize and support one another.